I seriously don't even know where to begin. So, here goes..........
I have been reading all of these blogs from parents of addicts who are completely freakin clueless! Let me just tell you, as i have been in active addiction for twenty years, i have learned a few things, and these are things i know with 100% certainty to be true!
Addiction does not happen to a perfectly healthy person who has been raised in a loving, accepting, non-judgemental enviornment. No matter how much "peer pressure" one faces. If you take a child who has been raised in a healthy and loving enviornment and offer them drugs, they will not want to try them or take them, because they feel comfortable and confident in who they are and they do not need to try and escape the pain and misery, because there is none.
I hear these parents saying, "Well we don't know what happened, we raised him right and he just chose to be a drug addict. This is BS people!!!
I don't beleive any child sits around and says"I want to be a drug addict when i grow up." I know this because that is certainly not the life i had dreamed of as a child, and would be willing to bet that other addicts feel the same way.
Addiction is the symptom, not the core issue, of something much greater. When i hear these parents say, "Well, it's their choice." It infuriates me! To me that is like saying someone chooses to have cancer, or diabetes, heart disease, etc. Addiction is a disease, i did not CHOOSE this for myself!
Another thing i have heard several times is that the addict just needs to learn to say no! Well, isn't that a brilliant idea?!! I can't beleive someone didn't think of this earlier! Come on people!! Don't you think if it was just a simple matter of being able to say no that the majority of all addicts would get clean and stay clean?!
I have been soooo dope sick, trying to have the "will power" to get and stay clean, trying with every morsel of my being to not do another shot of dope because i know it will only make me sicker, yet, as i sit there sobbing heavily with a needle in my arm, i also know that it is the only thing that will make me well. Don't you dare tell me that i have chosen this!!
Only now after 20 years of addiction have i gotten the correct information i need to start making real and long lasting changes. All the times i have tried getting clean before, i have not had proper information so therefore have continued to relapse. I like to describe it as trying to get to California with a road map to Kentucky, no matter how hard, or how many times you try, you will never get there. But once you get the correct map, you can begin your journey and reach your destination.
Food for thought:
You cannot stay clean in the same enviornment you stayed high.
Addiction is a family disease, if the addict gets help and the family does not, chances are the addict WILL relapse when put back in the same enviornment. The addict alone is not the entire problem, quit putting all the blame for everyones misery on the addict, and take a long, hard look in the mirror.